Common Co-Parenting Issues
Divorcing is a challenge, especially if you have kids. That means you won’t be rid of your spouse until your kids become adults. Your ex-spouse will still be a part of your children’s lives, whether you like it or not. Judges believe that children thrive when both parents are involved, and while it’s a great sentiment, it can be a struggle for the parents.
Co-parenting and child custody issues often crop up after divorce. You and the other parent are probably not on the same page; after all, if you two could agree on anything, you would still be married. But how do you deal with the issues and live in harmony? Here are some common co-parenting issues and how to deal with them.
Divorce brings about a lot of resentment and it’s common for the parents to badmouth each other, even years after the divorce has been finalized. However, this type of behavior can be damaging to children. Children think of themselves as part of each parent, so when you badmouth the other parent, the child thinks you are badmouthing them as well. This can lead to self-esteem problems. So be careful what you say in front of the kids. Stay positive!
Lack of Cooperation
Some parents purposely try not to cooperate with the other spouse. They may not pick up the kids on time or respond to any messages. They may disagree with everything you say. It can be frustrating, but there’s not really a lot you can do to change their behavior. The best thing you can do is be the best person you can be. You’re the only person you can control.
The kids likely have different schedules at Mom’s house than they do when they’re with Dad. Mom may be stricter, while Dad may be more lenient. The children may have different bedtimes, or Dad might let the kids eat what they want, when they want. The kids may protest the changes in schedules, but these differences can make them more flexible. It’s better for the kids to adapt than to engage in conflict over the changes in schedules.
Being a Control Freak
Many women are used to being the primary caregiver of their children, so relinquishing custody to the father can make them freak out. You may worry about what your kids are doing at all times, but you can’t. Unless there is a history of abuse, you have to trust the other parent. You have to let go. No, you and Dad aren’t going to agree on everything, and that’s fine. While children do thrive on consistency, they’ll be fine. Learn to let it go.
Seek Legal Help
Co-parenting after divorce is not an easy thing to do. You and your ex-spouse have fought many times before and that doesn’t change after divorce.
Fort Lauderdale divorce attorney Edward J. Jennings, P.A. can help you with child custody issues. Get a quick resolution so you can move on. Schedule a consultation by filling out the online form or calling 954-764-4330.