Establishing Routines And Transitions For Children After Divorce
Many parents don’t want to drag their children through a divorce because splitting up the family just makes things more complicated. Having to deal with crazy schedules, remembering who has custody one week, and dealing with child support is difficult on top of all the other elements of divorce. Plus, some couples can’t get along with each other, so they can just imagine the drama and stress of joint custody.
Divorces are complex and emotional; there’s no doubt about it. But that doesn’t mean that you should just stay in a bad marriage for the kids. There are ways to go about making a smooth transition for your kids so that there’s a sense of routine. Here are some tips to make it work.
Pick a Regular Pickup and Dropoff Time
Children thrive on routine. When they know exactly when they will go to each parent’s house, it eases their mind. When the day and time keeps changing, it can lead to stress and anxiety, which is what parents need to avoid. They should try to create a routine as much as possible, but children should also be aware that sometimes unexpected events happen that can lead to schedule changes.
Choose a Neutral Pickup Location
A neutral pickup location tends to create less tension among the parents. Therefore, choose a place, such as a grandparent’s house, school, or even the parking lot of a favorite restaurant.
Encourage a Relationship With the Other Parent
Don’t make your children feel guilty for leaving you to see the other parent. Children fare better when they are allowed to have a positive relationship with both parents. Both parents should be involved in their children’s lives as much as possible. Therefore, avoid badmouthing the other parent or saying or doing things that can cause your child to have ill will toward their mother or father.
Create Household Routines
Don’t’ try to be the fun parent who only does fun activities when their children come over. Children need routines. While it’s OK to plan fun events, that shouldn’t be all you’re doing. Perhaps your children have chores at your house or they need to do homework at a certain time. Children need to know what to expect.
Get Involved in School Activities
Education is the most important aspect of a child’s life. Therefore, parents need to be there for their children. Try to attend parent-teacher conferences, plays, award ceremonies, sports games, and other events that involve your children. Your kids will appreciate you being there to cheer them on.
Seek Legal Help
Divorcing with children can be an emotional process. It will likely cause a lot of fear, anxiety, and stress in a child, so making the transition smoother can put your kids’ mind at ease.
Fort Lauderdale divorce lawyer Edward J. Jennings, P.A. understands that things can be more challenging when children are part of a divorce. He can help you reduce stress as you try to keep your relationship with your ex-spouse on a friendly note. To schedule a consultation, fill out the online form or call 954-764-4330.