How Sharing A Bed Can Lead To Divorce
There are many things that can lead to divorce, from money problems to communication issues to kids to infidelity. But there are other seemingly less minor things that can also spell the end of a marriage. One of those is sharing a bed.
That’s right—sharing a bed with your significant other can make you question your marriage. Mattress company Naturepedic surveyed 800 people about their sleeping habits. Of those, 44 percent who were still sharing a bed with their spouse had second thoughts about their relationship due to their sleeping arrangement. That’s because sleeping together may be beneficial for some; for others, it can be a stress-inducing nightmare.
But sleeping in the same bed is what all married couples do, right? Not necessarily. Some people suffer from snoring, sleep apnea, sleepwalking, frequent tossing and turning, and other issues that can make it difficult for both people to get a good night’s sleep.
Not getting enough sleep has a detrimental effect on a person, their body, and their behavior. When you’re trying to sleep and your spouse keeps you from falling asleep or wakes you up in the middle of night, it causes your body to increase production of the cortisol. This stress hormone can negatively impact your marriage.
Those who were surveyed reported calm and peaceful relationships during waking hours, so what’s going on at night that’s causing them to be so stressed out? Most—78%—claimed that snoring was the main issue, with more than 70% claiming that conflicting sleep schedules were to blame. For 58% of respondents, different sleep temperature preferences cause problems between the partners.
Consider a New Sleep Arrangement
There’s no law that says that you have to sleep in the same bed as your spouse. If you’re not getting enough sleep and it’s clearly affecting your mood and productivity, consider a new sleep arrangement. It could really change the way you feel. In fact, of those who changed their sleeping arrangement, 59% reported less stress.
Survey participants also saw a change in how they described their relationship. While sharing a bed with their partner, 19% saw their relationship as “amazing.” This increased to 26% after couples decided to stop sharing a bed with their partner.
In any case, sleep quality and stress are related. Discuss your sleep situation with your spouse. It could mean you need a new mattress, a different sleep temperature, or separate beds. Just be sure to have the conversation at the right time—not in the middle of the night.
Seek Legal Help
While some people enjoy sleeping with their spouse, others don’t feel the same way. Snoring and constant tossing and turning can affect a person’s sleep and make them feel more stressed.
Are you feeling more stressed? Have you tried separate beds? If you and your spouse cannot get over your sleep incompatibilities, maybe divorce is in the cards. Contact Fort Lauderdale divorce lawyer Edward J. Jennings, P.A. to assess your situation and get you the best outcome. Fill out the online form or call 954-764-4330 to schedule a consultation.