How To End An Affair And Prioritize Your Marriage
Cheating is a very serious situation in a marriage and it is often a deal breaker. That’s because, as the saying goes, once a cheater, always a cheater. So if your spouse has cheated on you once, there’s a possibility that they could do it again.
But there are those spouses who are truly remorseful for what they have done. They truly want to save their marriage and will do whatever it takes to do so. They will even end their affair right then and there.
When a person does this, though, the other spouse may have some doubts. Can they really trust their partner to not cheat again?
They can, over time. However, they have to realize a few things. First, most people who cheat are happily married. Second, when they decide to end an affair, it’s not really as complicated as it may seem. That’s because affairs often leave many people feeling self-contempt about their dishonesty. So many people actually feel relieved when they are caught or come clean.
So when you get caught and you want to save your marriage, what happens next? Here’s how to end your affair the right way.
Ending the Affair
End an affair by taking these steps.
- Make the decision. Tell someone you trust that you are ending the affair. They can support you through the process.
- End it right away. Don’t wait for a special event, a holiday, or other date. The sooner, the better.
- Tell your affair partner that it is over. Do it in person or via a letter, but don’t go into explanations. Do not talk it over or express your love or feelings. Get to the point. End it quickly before the affair partner tries to change your mind.
- Tell your spouse. If you haven’t told your spouse about the affair, you most likely should, especially if you have lied about it, there is a way that your spouse could find out from someone else, or if having specific emotions (such as guilt, shame, fear, or anger) will keep you from improving your marriage with your spouse.
- Avoid contact. Stay away from the affair partner at all costs. This may mean changing your phone number, changing jobs, or even changing cities.
- Improve your marriage. If you really want to save your marriage, then you will need to put some effort into it. Marriage counseling can help you understand why the affair happened, forgive each other, repair your marriage, and help you both develop a great life together.
Seek Legal Help
Infidelity can easily end a marriage, but if you are remorseful about having an affair and want your marriage to work, you can make it happen. However, it will take a lot of courage and effort.
If your marriage cannot be saved, it’s time to discuss the situation with Fort Lauderdale divorce lawyer Edward J. Jennings, P.A. Divorces are tough, but we have three decades of experience helping otters in your situation. Schedule a consultation today to get started. Call 954-764-4330 or fill out the online form.