How to Take the Stress Out of Divorce
You’ve tried everything possible to save your marriage. You’ve tried to communicate and have even gone to counseling. You and your spouse just can’t make things work, and you’re both miserable. You have kids and it’s apparent they feel the misery as well. You decide that divorce is the best option.
Divorce, however, does not have to be a nasty situation. You don’t have to badmouth each other and drag each other through a courtroom. You don’t have to fight over child custody, property division and other issues. You can separate peacefully and quickly so you can move on.
Looking to take the stress out of divorce? Here are some points to consider.
Have Some Respect
This can be hard, especially if there were major issues in the marriage, such as addiction or infidelity. However, keep in mind that you once loved this person. You married them and had children with them, so you must’ve had some positive feelings for them at some point. Therefore, refrain from being negative. Avoid badmouthing, especially in front of the children. It may take some effort on your part, but if you can be calm, it will pay off in terms of a quicker and more peaceful divorce.
Make Your Children a Priority
While a divorce occurs between the parents, keep in mind that despite all the stress involved, your children are your priority. Their interests need to come first. Therefore, do not try to damage their relationship with the other parent. Focus on effective co-parenting relationships. You and the other parent should sit down and discuss what you want parenting to look like after the divorce. Who will be the custodial parent? How often will the other parent have visitation or custody?
Avoid a Contested Divorce
If possible, opt for an uncontested divorce. This means you should try to agree on a settlement with your partner. Use mediation, if needed, to negotiate key issues such as property division, child custody and financial obligations. This will make the process quicker and more affordable. If you want to disagree on everything, it will take longer and become more expensive.
In a divorce, it’s hardly ever one person’s fault. Both parties are to blame in some way, so don’t try to put it all on your partner. This is unnecessary and can make compromise impossible, which can derail your divorce. If children are involved, this person will still be a part of your life at least until your children are adults, so avoid trying to figure out who caused the demise of your marriage. All this does is cause more pain. Focus on moving on peacefully without creating more drama.
Seek Legal Help
The word “divorce” often has a negative connotation, but by taking the right steps and having a positive mindset, you can make the divorce process more peaceful.
If divorce is on your mind, make sure you understand your options. Fort Lauderdale divorce attorney Edward J. Jennings, P.A. can guide you through the process and make your divorce less stressful. Schedule a consultation by filling out the online form or calling 954-764-4330.