Should You Divorce A Spouse Who’s Always Late?
People get divorced for a variety of reasons. Finances, infidelity, substance abuse, mental illness, and constant conflict are common causes of divorce.
Tardiness is frustrating for many people. There are many cases in which one person is always on time, while the other is constantly late. While being a few minutes late here and there is probably not a big deal, being an hour late for every event can get on a person’s nerves after a while and make them consider divorce.
For some people, timing is everything. What happens when your spouse can’t get on a schedule? Is divorce on the table? Here are some ways to address the problem before ending things for good.
Have a Discussion
If you are frustrated over your spouse’s excessive tardiness, it’s time to discuss it. Sit down and tell them how you feel and how their behavior affects you. Hopefully they will be motivated to make changes once they see how you feel about their lateness.
Set a Good Example
Show your spouse what it means to be on time. Start getting dressed and ready on time. Show how you prioritize chores and tasks so you can get out of the house on time. It’s also a good idea to nudge your spouse and let them know when they should start getting ready.
Make Things Easier
Do your part to make things easier for your spouse. Meet at home and get ready together. Be by their side so you can get them up and ready. For example, you can tell them when to get in the shower, when to get dressed, etc. Then you both can leave together so there are no delays.
Go Alone if Necessary
People sometimes arrive late because they are scared of being early, which may seem weird. But this doesn’t mean that you have to be late because of them. If you must, go to the event alone. Let your spouse come later. When they arrive late, they can deal with the judging and weird looks.
Make a Decision
After a while, you may decide that living like this is just not feasible. That was what one man decided after his wife was late for 90% of all events they did together during their 12 years of marriage. He filed for divorce, shocking everyone who knew them. The tardiness started when they were dating, but got worse after marriage and kids. The man finally reached his breaking point and could no longer be patient.
That may be the case in your marriage. You may feel as if you can no longer stand it. In any case, you need to decide if you can make adjustments to please your partner or if the tardiness is a deal breaker.
Seek Legal Help
Couples divorce for a variety of reasons. While it may seem unusual for a couple to divorce over lateness, it’s ultimately up to you what you consider to be a deal breaker in a partner.
No matter your reason for divorce, Fort Lauderdale divorce lawyer Edward J. Jennings, P.A. can help. Let us guide you through the process. Schedule a consultation by filling out the online form or calling 954-764-4330.