What Divorced People Wished They Would Have Done Differently
In the heat of the moment, many people threaten divorce. Roughly half of all marriages go through it. While most people move on with no regrets, some people wish they would have done things differently before filing.
Marriage is hard work and a lot of couples give in too early. As time goes on, they reflect on their marriage and maybe think things would be OK if they acted differently.
Would their marriages have survived? Maybe, maybe not. But here are some common things that people wish they would have done to improve their marriage and perhaps prevent divorce.
Spoke Up
After a while, people get tired of arguing with their spouse. Instead of speaking up all the time, they tend to shut down and avoid arguments. By not sharing your feelings, you’re moving toward divorce and not even knowing it.
Sought Therapy
Only 19% of couples try therapy before filing for divorce, which is ridiculous considering that some weddings cost tens of thousands of dollars while a counseling session may cost a few hundred dollars. When couples do seek help, they wait way too long. The average couple waits six years after problems start before seeking help. By then, there’s a lot of built-up resentment that’s hard to erase.
Been More Grateful
It’s important to be thankful for what your spouse does for you. Case in point: happy couples maintain a 5:1 ratio of positive to negative interactions, while divorcing couples average 0.8:1. Many couples fall into a pattern where they only notice the things that weren’t done and were never grateful for what was done. This attitude can quickly kill a marriage.
Kept Regular Date Nights
After the honeymoon phase is over in a marriage, the relationship tends to go on the wayside, especially after children come along. Date nights are still a necessity in a marriage to keep the spark alive, but many couples forget about them. They’re too busy with life but couples need to plan them regularly. After all, date nights are cheaper than lawyers.
Fight Fairly
Many people argue with their spouse with a focus on winning and being right, but not necessarily solving the problem. In fact, statistics show that 65% of marital arguments never get resolved. Having a perfect record of winning every argument isn’t something to brag about when you’re in divorce court. And ironically, those who have to co-parent with their exes after a divorce tend to communicate better because there is no more pressure to win.
Seek Legal Help
Divorce is a major event. It dissolves your marriage for good. Is this what you really want?
Don’t have any regrets with your divorce. Do what you can to save your marriage, then call Fort Lauderdale divorce lawyer Edward J. Jennings, P.A. Marriage is hard. Divorce can be even harder. We’ll help you make the right decisions. Schedule a consultation today to learn more. Fill out the online form or call 954-764-4330.
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