Avoiding Divorce During Turbulent Times
Divorce lawyers are gearing up for increases in divorces as couples unsuccessfully navigate the quarantine caused by the COVID-19 pandemic. Turmoil in the world has been known to cause an increase in marital strife. With so many pressures caused by the coronavirus, vulnerable marriages are falling apart.
Dealing with job loss, working from home, children out of school, financial issues, health concerns and all of the other issues associated with the pandemic can cause couples to go into stress mode. The body thinks it is under attack and the only way to deal with this attack is to get mad at the other person. Each person deals with conflict differently. Some act more aggressive. Others are more agitated. Some shut down entirely, refusing to discuss their issues.
You may feel as though divorce is the only route. While many couples are considering divorce during these turbulent times, you don’t have to be a statistic. When things start getting tense between you and your spouse, consider these tips to keep your marriage intact.
Be Aware of and Manage Your Emotions
A lot of people say mean things without thinking first, and this is what gets them into a lot of trouble. Think things through first before saying things you’ll later regret. Check in with yourself several times a day to get a gauge of how you’re feeling. That way, you can identify an issue before it gets out of hand.
Once you identify your emotions, you can figure out how to best handle them. Do you need to take a deep breath? Do you need to walk away and have a timeout? Try to avoid reaching a boiling point or shutdown, as your body will need time to recuperate.
Let Your Spouse Express Their Emotions
Remember that you’re not the only one who is feeling emotional. Your spouse is entitled to his or her emotions as well, so let them own them. Don’t minimize their emotions. In fact, you should acknowledge their feelings.
Have Positive Conversations
Once you acknowledge the feelings of you and your spouse, you can work toward having positive conversations. This means using your decision-making skills to address critical issues. Don’t try to pit yourself against your spouse. Opt for teamwork and try to make the discussion “we-oriented.” Remember, there will always be challenges in life, so what matters is how you decide to deal with them.
Seek Legal Help
Marriage is difficult for couples even in the best of times. In these trying times (quarantine, pandemic, job loss, etc.), issues in a marriage become even more magnified, but you don’t have to throw in the towel too soon and give up.
Marriages are worth fighting for, but have things gotten so bad in your marriage that you want out? If divorce is on your mind, get advice from Fort Lauderdale divorce attorney Edward J. Jennings, P.A. He can guide you through all the legal and emotional aspects. Divorce with less stress. To schedule a consultation, fill out the online form or call 954-764-4330.